Sometimes we find ourselves buying a particular bikini to “get noticed” by a particular guy – or – looking for a special ball gown for the upcoming annual ball to “get noticed” by a special someone – or – we change the colours we wear or the style of clothes we wear … all in the name of capturing the attention of one person.
In reality, the guy who respects you, values you and appreciates you, has already noticed you – just the way you are.
The notion of changing ourselves to attract a guy is ludicrous. All we end up with is a guy who is attracted to a version of you – not you, the true and complete you. It becomes hard work to continue to be this other version and feels like you are wearing a mask or a costume.
When the cracks appear in the relationship and it starts to split, you will find that you don’t recognize the person who you have become. Who are you?
Choosing to grow, develop, change and experiment with clothes, activities, your voice, etc. etc. works out well if you are doing it because you want to. In fact, that is brilliant. Growth and the desire to be better is a powerful force … when done on your terms, when you want, the way you want, because you want to.