7am Friday morning.
Brrrrring … Brrrring…. My desk phone rings. Staring at the caller ID, I see the words “General Manager” and my instinct is to leave. Fight or Flight....
When children talk, they drop clues about what is important to THEM. For example:
The clue could be completely menial and boring – to you. Never overlook it or brush it off. This clue is a GIFT. It signals the communication channel is open and ready to exchange....
When someone gives you unsolicited advice, always respond out loud with a calm “Thank you for your feedback.”
Scream at them inside your head.
There’s a time to be the listener & a time to be the talker. When in doubt, be the listener.
When our children are babies, we require psychic powers to determine what they need, when they need it and what the problem is that needs fixing. Realistically, we are the magic fairies that swoop in to do things for them.
Eventually, young children start to be able to communicate with their body, sounds, then words and finally sentences. This is where we must stop being the swooping helicopter of solutions and begin developing our incredible patience. This young age is the perfect time to start sowing the seeds of self-sufficiency....
Often, children learn a completely different lesson than the one you think you are teaching them.
Violence when “mucking around” or “rough-housing” or “playing” is still violence. Nuances about what is / is not ok in certain circumstances is lost on young children.
The way our children are playing on the lounge-room floor ... is that the way we want them to play in the playground at school, with their friends?
Never give false accolades.
Never tell our children they are the best in the world at something - unless they truly are. Praise their effort, instead.
Praise every challenge as an opportunity to learn.
Praise the effort our children put into an activity - irrespective of the outcome.
Our job - as a parent - is to be a steadfast, reliable, stable rock.
We are to consistently demonstrate the values and behaviours we wish to instill in our children … no matter what they throw back at us or their attempts to manipulate.
Before you make a decision (Lesson 30), take as much time as YOU need to gather as much information as possible. Talk to whoever YOU need to talk to, prior to giving permission or making a promise.
THEN give careful consideration prior to giving a decree. Once given, stick with it....
Do what you say you are going to do & stick with it.
Give your permission (or lack of) plus conditions & stick with it.
Your boyfriend should ALWAYS be excited to see you or hear your voice – no matter what else is going on in his life. You are the ray of sunshine and are always wanted.
If – out of nowhere – he stops being excited to see or hear from you… he’s not interested in you anymore. Don’t waste your energy making excuses for him:...