I saw a friend the other day. As soon as she opened her mouth, it started….
The complaining about her husband.
Complaining about her work.
Complaining about her kids.
Complaining about the school.
Complaining about her extended family. Oh, it just went on and on and on.
If it was a once-off vent, that's okay.
Venting is good. Venting is healthy.
Isn’t that what we have friends for? That's what you do as friends…. you listen. You listen to your friends vent and give them airspace to get something off their chest.
When you find yourself venting about the same things every day, every week, every month … it stops being venting and it turns into complaining.
Venting is …
You pick who you're going to vent to, and you just unload. Once.
Probably preface it with, "Hey, I just need to vent about this thing right now. Do you mind if you just listen?" Then just let it out -- vent, vent, vent, vent, vent. Get it out there. Then leave it. Stop. Move on. That's a vent.
Complaining about the same thing over and over and over and over … it serves no purpose for anyone.
My first thought when I wake in the morning is NOT "I can't wait to complain. This is going to be awesome."
Nor do I think, "I can't wait to hear someone complain to me. Just bring it on. I love listening to people complaining."
No one likes to listen to other people complaining and it serves no purpose whatsoever. You're not actually using your head space to find a solution. You're just complaining.
Quit your bitching and find a solution.
Find a solution to the things that you are complaining about.